Whether we'd like to admit it or not, we are all alone in this world. We may love many people, be in love with others, and even be surrounded by people constantly, but there will always be moments, waves of realisation, that the only person that exists in this reality, is you.
We live in a society that frowns upon being alone. They often imply that being alone means you're lonely, means you lack something or rather, you are incomplete by yourself. Our society does not teach us that being alone is not something we can change, it is not the problem, but rather they should encourage us to embrace it and help us focus on being comfortable and happy enough to be alone.
Futhermore, a lover should not complete you, but rather compliment you. It should be more along the lines of - 'Beside you, I stand alone' or as Khalil Gibran says- "Fill each other's cup but drink not from the same cup." Each person should maintain their individuality and strengthen one another, rather then being completely dependent their partner to be happy.
I must admit, there are times in life that being alone is a terrifying, harsh feeling, and the fear of living in that way takes full advantage of us. I think we all go through it at some point in our lives, and once you realise it's a frame of mind that you've created, possibly because you're scared, uncertain or worried, it just seems easier to deal with.
It's simple things that can fix it, like taking a walk, looking at art, reading, writing, spending time with friends or family or even just sleeping it out. In fact it can just happen in a single moment with someone or alone, that you just feel soothed being you again. For me, it's often when I do something I love, I smile and laugh, or just get my mind off it. And strangely as it came, it leaves.
It's ironic that we all are alone in our own worlds, yet we all live together in this one.
We humans are odd individuals; we search for completeness everywhere around us, instead of starting to look inside first.
Yajna Ramdass
April 2009
